Tuesday, September 26, 2023

Were the "good moms" of the 1950s sexual predators?

I was a teenage boy in the 1950s.
There were certain portrayals back then.
One was that teenage boys were curious about sex, and wondered what it would be like. (Certainly describes me :-)
Another was that girls should be "good girls", which meant they would preserve their virginity until they were married.
Did teenage girls ever think about sex back then?
Looking back on it now, I'm sure they did, but at the time that subject was never publicly mentioned, AFAIK.

Anyhow, what should teenage boys do?
Well, there was one answer, in the literature that I read.
It was the "good mom".
The mom that was aware of the desires of teenage boys, and was aware that their female contemporaries were off limits to them, and, well, the mom knew how to handle that problem, for the pleasure and satisfaction of both.
A win-win situation.
Was there anything so wrong with that?
I don't think so, but evidently many in the 2000s disagree.
And indeed declare such moms as "predators", and such boys as victims.
Well, as I said, I was a boy in the 1950s.
I never had such a relationship, but if I had, it seems to me to be a real stretch to consider that an act of victimization.
That would have expanded my horizons and knowledge.
And, perhaps quite usefully for future reference, given me useful knowledge about how to please the female sex, what women like.
I.e., some useful training.
Is that so terrible?

For the current view of relations as criminality, see, e.g., the case of Alissa McCommon
https://images.app.goo.gl/LiSQd1nBaneSQkbF8
https://youtu.be/I9VKm60gXuA
I find it difficult to criticize women for their sexual desires.
They have been criticized far too much for such.
I am sympathetic to Ms. McCommon.
Hard for me to believe she harmed her alleged victims.
I would have been honored, and no doubt, gratified. Even satisfied :-)
One may ponder the effect she has on her male students.
Did they study harder in an effort to please her?
Do, or should, men work hard to please women?
Learning how to be a good boy for a lady's extensive sexual desires :-)
Helping the lady to have a good time :-)
Is that so bad?

Was Alissa McCommon a sexual predator or a "good mom"?