If a female who is capable of having regular orgasms
is properly stimulated within a short period after her first climax,
she will in most instances be capable of having
a second, third, fourth, and even a fifth and sixth orgasm
before she is fully satiated.
As contrasted with the male’s usual inability
to have more than one orgasm in a short period,
many females, especially when clitorally stimulated,
can regularly have five or six full orgasms within a matter of minutes.
—Shere Hite quoting
Mary Jane Sherfey quoting
Masters and Johnson.
at books.google.com and on the web.
For some ways of performing oral stimulation that may be effective,
see this.]
Sherfey goes on to explain, in more detail than anyone else has ever done,
the physiology behind this capacity:
the popular idea that a woman should have one intense orgasm
which should bring “full satisfaction,”
act as a strong sedative,
and alleviate sexual tension for several days to come
is simply fallacious…
Each orgasm is followed promptly by
refilling of the venous erectile chambers,
distension creates engorgement and edema,
which create more tissue tension, etc.
The supply of blood and edema fluid to the pelvis is inexhaustible.
Consequently,
the more orgasms a woman has,
the stronger they become;
the more orgasms she has,
the more she can have.
To all intents and purposes,
the human female is sexually insatiable
in the presence of
the highest degrees of sexual satisfaction.
[Original emphasis.]
Questions
As a man, perhaps I have no business asking about this,
and should be embarassed for being curious.
On the other hand, at least some women seem to want for men to take more of an interest in their sexual needs.
Besides, I think that at least in some cases,
women are curious about male sexuality.
Is it okay if we both learn more about each other?
Okay, enough with the defensiveness.
From what I know (i.e., from my reading of The Hite Report)
some, probably a fairly small percentage, of women do have multiple orgasms.
It seems to me it is reasonable to ask:
What are the causative, or at least correlative, factors that determine
which women can achieve multiple orgasms?
Several factors seem possible:
- Her biology, i.e., her genetic factors.
- Her upbringing and conditioning.
- The general state of her psychology at the time:
happy, sad, preoccupied, whatever. - Her attitude towards her partner.
- The specific physical stimulation she receives from her partner.
In other words, are there some women who,
for reasons of biology or upbringing,
might as well forget about the possibility?
Can this be determined without endless, frustrating, trial and (mainly) error?
To put it yet another way,
is it true that for some women,
achieving multiple orgasms is “Mission Impossible”
and if so, why?
By the way, here are some answers cosmo.com has provided to the above:
Orgasms-Unlimited and trick-to-multiorgasmic.
See also
The Multi-Orgasmic Woman by Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD.
And here is a sample from the Cosmo article Orgasms Unlimited.
Moregasm Tip 5: Hit the Hottest Spot
Another common denominator that multiorgasmic women share:
They know to bridge the gap from single to multiple
by stimulating the G-spot, that spongelike moan zone behind the pubic bone.
Here’s why:
“While that area is highly responsive to touch,
it’s also strong and resilient enough to stand up to a lot of stimulation,”
says Dr. Abrams.
As we said earlier, a good trick is to come initially from clitoral stroking.
But then, once that area becomes supersensitive,
move on to stimulate your G-spot to unleash the next orgasmic wave.
Now that you’re there, the best positions to milk this feel-good sensation
are reverse cowgirl and doggie-style,
which are good bets because they tend to stroke that area naturally.
To sweeten the pot, make sure you treat these positions as full-contact sports.
That means having him fondle your breasts
or trail his nails down your back as you ride him silly
and creating constant contact by rubbing your clitoris against his body
in a rocking motion in addition to thrusting.
You get the picture.
As for why this pleasure combo works like a charm,
according to Dr. Abrams,
the more areas you engage while stimulating the G-spot, the better.
“One study found that women are more likely to have additional orgasms
if they are stimulating several body parts at the same time,”
she says.
“Your body never quite knows exactly what to expect next
and is more likely to respond.”
Over and over again.
And here is the complete article:
How to Have Multiple Orgasms
Women’s bodies are hardwired to have more than one feel-good explosion.
Well, hallelujah! Here, we break down how to achieve that ultimate pleasure.
PLUS: Check out more expert-approved orgasm secrets!
By Theresa O’Rourke
[0.1]
We at Cosmo firmly believe that you can never have too much of a good thing —
especially in the bedroom.
That’s why we’re letting you in on some blissful news:
With a little bit of know-how,
you can experience more than one climax in a single sack session.
In fact, from now on,
you should have a new between-the-sheets mantra:
No more one and done!
[0.2]
“The average woman is built to come again and again,”
says Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, coauthor of The Multi-Orgasmic Woman.
Meaning that once you’ve mastered that first peak,
the climb to the next one is absolutely obtainable.
“Women don’t require a refractory period like men do,
so we’re able to stay aroused for longer
and have an orgasm a second and third time with little effort,”
says Dr. Abrams.
[0.3]
Of course, sometimes just having a single full-body earthquake
offers one hundred percent sack-satisfaction,
and some of you might feel like calling it a night after your usual one-timer.
That’s fine. After all, having the option is the key to a smokin’ sex life.
However, for those times when you can’t get enough of the good stuff,
simply take these moregasm tips to heart (and to bed)
and discover how to double your fun.
Moregasm Tip 1: Don’t Be Single-Minded
[1.1]The first step in plural peaking:
Tune in to the mind-body connection.
If you go into a hookup with limited expectations of your orgasm,
you’ll actually cause your body to limit its pleasure responses.
In other words,
if you assume you can only come once during intercourse...you will.
[1.2]
The reason why understanding your frame of mind is so important?
“After you’ve gotten there for the first time,
rather than switching off mentally and sexually —
which is what you do when you assume you’ve reached the finale —
you need to remain expectant and open to further arousal,”
says Dr. Abrams.
“It’s all about knowing that your body is fully capable, even built,
to experience deeper, longer, and more frequent orgasms.”
[1.3]
Once you have the right attitude,
the next step is making sure that you have some time on your hands.
“One of the biggest misconceptions women have about multiple orgasms
is that they happen by chance or that they’re some sort of fluke,”
says Dr. Abrams.
“But like anything else, they require a little effort and planning
that you don’t get from on-the-fly quickies.”
There’s just no point in getting mentally geared up for all that extra action
if you’re not in the right circumstances
to be able to enjoy yourself with your man.
[1.4]
And finally, make your guy privy to your mattress mission...kind of.
“He won’t just get that you’re in the mood for something more drawn out,”
says Dr. Abrams.
But rather than putting the heat on him by mentioning the word multiple
(can you say “cold sweat”?),
deliver your bed buddy a carnal challenge he can get excited about.
[1.5]
“Tell him that tonight you want to feel the slow burn.
And to get that, you really want to draw out foreplay,
and you have a few ideas for the main event too,”
says Dr. Abrams.
This way, you create a situation where he’s not only keen to please,
but he’s eagerly anticipating your direction too.
Moregasm Tip 2: Step Up the Sexercises
[2.1]Consider this your ultimate down-there workout motivator:
Strong PC (pubococcygeus) muscles have been demonstrated to be
a crucial component to having multiples,
says Beverly Whipple, PhD, coauthor of
The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality.
(Remember, when they’re not making you moan, these Kegel muscles —
which surround the vaginal canal —
are the ones that enable you to withhold urine.)
[2.2]
“Since your orgasm is essentially
an intense contraction of your PC and pelvic floor muscles,
strengthening them increases blood flow to the area
and enables you to experience a deeper pleasure sensation
and a repeated series of pulses,”
says Laura Berman, PhD, author of The Passion Prescription.
[2.3]
By now, you know the Kegels drill:
Flex the muscles until you feel them tighten. Release. Tighten again.
But there’s a tweak that will get more mileage out of your orgasm,
and it only takes a minute.
“It’s called the Pelvic Connecting Crunch,
and it’s a more effective sexercise
because it uses your transverse abdominals and inner thighs
to engage the PC muscles and work it harder,” says Berman.
[2.4]
Here’s how to do it:
Start by lying on your back with knees bent and feet on the floor.
Place something, like a ball, between your inner thighs.
Engage your Kegels by concentrating on bringing them in, up and back.
Inhale and feel the tension extend up your stomach and spine.
Lift your head and shoulders slightly off the ground
and hold this position for 10 seconds.
Once your PCs are in primo shape,
you can use them to your advantage during sex.
When the time is right,
the moment you feel that first contraction of orgasm,
“don’t let it slip away,”
says Dr. Abrams.
Keep pumping your muscles in small bursts
to draw out the wave
and create momentum for the next series of orgasmic contractions.”
This way, you use your newfound strength
to move beyond the initial climax
and into the pleasurable realm beyond.
Moregasm Tip 3: Max Out Foreplay
[3.1]Now that you’re naked (and in the right mind-set),
take the heavy lifting out of your first peak.
To do that, point your man south.
“For most women,
clitoral stimulation from oral sex is the easiest way for them to climax,”
says Dr. Abrams.
“And having your guy help you get there before intercourse
means that your body will be geared up to come again
and respond to the added vaginal stimulation during sex,
rather than still struggling to orgasm for the first time.”
[3.2]
And even if you don’t come during foreplay,
don’t fast-track the fun stuff:
Your guy pampering you down there still paves the way for multiples.
“If you’re aroused slowly,
then you’ll stay aroused for longer,
and unlike manual stimulation,
his tongue is flexible, soft and strong —
the perfect tool for making that happen,”
says Dr. Abrams.
[3.3]
Ask him to caress you down there with his tongue for a minute or so
before pulling away for a few seconds.
Then, have him dive right back in.
“Oral teasing techniques prime the body to expect that
after each peak of sensation,
another one is coming,”
says Dr. Abrams.
“And it remembers that lesson when you orgasm —
after one, it’ll stay in that prepped state for more stimulation,
putting you on the track to come again.”
Moregasm Tip 4: Take a Mini Time-Out
[4.1]Once you come for the first time,
you’re probably in the habit of pulling away from him
because you’re so sensitive to his touch.
And rightly so:
“After an orgasm,
a lot of nerve pathways have been stimulated,
and there’s been a tremendous surge in blood flow,”
says Whipple.
“So it’s completely natural
for some women to want to take a break from stimulation
in those moments immediately following.”
[4.2]
But here’s the difference between
a sack session that finishes here with a happy ending
and one that continues on to multiple peaks:
If you fall into a stupefied pleasure coma, you’re done.
If you resume touching an area that is not hypersensitive,
you bring it on.
[4.3]
To do it,
“give the vaginal area a break for a minute,
and have your partner suck your fingers,
kiss you or caress your breasts,”
says Dr. Abrams.
“The stroking in other regions
will keep your nerves and sensual energy on high alert
while your nether regions cool off
just enough to take his caresses all over again.”
[4.4]
Remember, you don’t want to entirely put the kibosh on intimate contact.
Otherwise, you’ll have to work that much harder
to get to a heightened state of arousal.
So keep up the caressing
until you feel that hypersensitivity draining away
and the heat returning to your moan zone.
Moregasm Tip 5: Hit the Hottest Spot
[5.1]Another common denominator that multiorgasmic women share:
They know to bridge the gap from single to multiple
by stimulating the G-spot,
that spongelike moan zone behind the pubic bone.
Here’s why:
“While that area is highly responsive to touch,
it’s also strong and resilient enough to stand up to a lot of stimulation,”
says Dr. Abrams.
[5.2]
As we said earlier, a good trick is to come initially from clitoral stroking.
But then, once that area becomes supersensitive,
move on to stimulate your G-spot to unleash the next orgasmic wave.
Now that you’re there,
the best positions to milk this feel-good sensation
are reverse cowgirl and doggie-style,
which are good bets because they tend to stroke that area naturally.
[5.3]
To sweeten the pot,
make sure you treat these positions as full-contact sports.
That means having him fondle your breasts
or trail his nails down your back as you ride him silly
and creating constant contact by rubbing your clitoris against his body
in a rocking motion in addition to thrusting.
You get the picture.
[5.4]
As for why this pleasure combo works like a charm,
according to Dr. Abrams,
the more areas you engage while stimulating the G-spot,
the better.
“One study found that women are more likely to have additional orgasms
if they are stimulating several body parts at the same time,”
she says.
“Your body never quite knows exactly what to expect next
and is more likely to respond.”
Over and over again.
This back-to-basics guide
will refresh you on hitting the high note next time you’re nude.
Clear Your Mind
Push out unwanted thoughts by focusing on something sexy,
like how hot your guy looks in the shower,
or conjuring up an image that excites you during masturbation.
Go Sol-O
Masturbation is perhaps the most crucial step to peaking with a guy.
It allows you to feel out your climax triggers and then show them to your man.
Let Him at You
Don’t be self-conscious about receiving pleasure and, more important,
telling him you’re not ready to move on if he tries to accelerate too soon.
Use Your PC Muscles
When you’re close to orgasm, tighten and relax your Kegels.
This alone can sometimes trigger a real orgasm.
Stay in the Moment
If you get caught up in “Argh, I’m not going to come” thinking,
tune back into the physical by touching yourself.
Keep Your Position
The key to climaxing is steady stimulation,
so when you’re almost there, hold off on the erotic acrobatics.
Instead, stick with a position that’s hitting your hot spots
and stay there until you come.
Source: Beverly Whipple, Professor Emerita at Rutgers University;
Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, coauthor of the Multi-Orgasmic Woman;
San Francisco sex therapist Seth Prosterman, PhD
[Whew, ladies!
My opinion: That seems like an awful lot of advice.
But the results sound so great!
Women are so blessed to have all those capabilities for enhanced pleasure!]
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